“A Day that Belongs to Me”

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The birthday craze continues with my annual birthday giveaway. An extra plus is that I get to poke through my pictures to find some cute birthday cakes. My daughter-in-law is very inventive with the kids’ cakes and when this granddaughter asked for a dog cake a few years ago, she created a cake with a doghouse, a dog, and dog biscuits. Well, they looked like dog biscuits but they were actually graham crackers made to look like Scooby treats. It was the kind of cake you hate to cut into and destroy.

But not everybody has a mother to make them a cake and even if we did, many of us have had to say goodbye to our loving mothers as they moved on to their heavenly reward. So what about birthdays when you don’t have anybody to treat you with a cake and presents? What then? Some of you said a birthday was just another day to you.

Sometimes I’m sort of there with you, but at the same time, I think it’s a great day to celebrate life by doing something you really enjoy. But I was blown away by Brenda’s message about how she celebrates her birthday. Without a doubt, she has the right birthday attitude. I know you’ll love reading how Brenda makes her day special. Here’s what she says:

I love birthdays! It has nothing to do with getting older, it’s just a day that belongs to me, that says how special I am. In fact, there have been birthdays where I forgot that I was older until later in the day. My perfect birthday is celebrated alone (I’m an introvert) and I find all sorts of fun ways to celebrate it with Jesus. I sing “Happy Birthday” to myself all day.

When it’s a “big” one (like this year when I t turned 60) I prepare a few months ahead by asking myself, “If my birthday were today, what would be depressing about it? What would I have wanted to do with my life by today?” Then I start doing those things, so that on my birthday I’m already in the middle of life, enjoying and accomplishing what I want my life to look like.

Years ago I found verses in the Bible about my birth from God’s viewpoint and printed them, cut them apart, and then throughout my day I slip away and draw one to be reminded of how God loves me.

I buy myself gifts and wrap them, then sit with Jesus and open them and savor things my heart delights in. I do that for Christmas too, lol.

Thank you, Brenda, for sharing a beautiful way to make a birthday and/or Christmas special even when you’re alone except for the Lord who is always with us. Brenda picked verses that mentioned how we are marvelously made, like Psalm 71:6-7 “By You I have been upheld from birth; You are He who took me out of my mother’s womb. My praise shall be continually of You.” (NKJ) But you could also pick favorite verses or ones that make you feel especially loved by the Lord too such as Psalm 68:10 [NKJ] “Blessed be the Lord, who daily loads us with benefits. The God of our salvation!”

We may not be able to change many things about our lives, but we can change our attitudes and do our best to see the good in each day.

Thank you for reading. And remember you still have time to throw your name in my drawing hat for the prizes. 1st prize – wind chimes and winner’s choice of one of my books. 2nd prize – a Willow Tree cat and woman figurine and the choice of one of my books. 3rd prize – one of my books and a grab bag book by another author.Β  You must be 18 or older to enter the drawing and have a USA or Canadian address. Entries must be received by midnight EST on September 17, 2016. You can enter by leaving a comment on one of my blog posts in September or by sending me an e-mail. For fun, you can tell me how you celebrate your birthday. Love your stories.

I’ll end with this poem from John whose birthday is 2 days before mine.

I know I’ll have fun
Spending time with family
Who always bring the sun,
Wishing me all the best
Along with gifts, and cheer,
As I thank God again
For those that I hold dear!


Comments 10

  1. Betsy Fuzy

    I agree it’s about attitude & accepting what God has given us as our portion! He knows what we are able to handle! I am thankful He knows best & always had the very best plans! Thursday would have been my daughter’s 43rd birthday. God was very gracious to us & sent many messages of love through our friends & loved ones!!

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      Ann H Gabhart

      I’m happy you have loved ones and friends who love you through the hard days of loss, Betsy. May your good memories of the times you shared with your daughter somehow comfort you. You obviously have a faithful attitude of trust and love as you lean on the Lord.

  2. Betty w

    I’m not sure I’ve shared this. One birthday I was feeling down, so I thought what was important about today. My mother gave birth to me, so I had flowers sent to her & told her she was so special to me because she gave life to me. What a wonderful day! I don’t do it every year, but she remembers it every year & mentions it to someone who calls to tell me Happy Birthday. How special that reminder is. What do you think?

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      Ann H Gabhart

      I think that’s a beautiful way to celebrate your birthday, Betty. I’ve had others tell me they always call or write their mother to tell her thank you on their birthdays. For most of us mothers, the day our children were born is one of the very best days in our whole lives. And your special gesture of love to your mother was obviously very appreciated.

  3. Melissa

    I do believe you have a birthday coming up soon. πŸ™‚ It’s “Birthday Month” around here for me, as my birthday is Sept. 25th. I have already started receiving coupons in the mail from my fav places to eat and shop. I love birthdays. πŸ™‚ Being an 11 years breast cancer survivor, each birthday is extremely special.
    Happy Birthday Month, Ann!!!

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      Ann H Gabhart

      11 year survivor sounds very good, Melissa. That’s a good thing to read. You’re right about how looking cancer in the face can make each day a little brighter. May you continue to have good health and happy birthday months!! Thank you for your kind wishes. I’m two years out from being treated for breast cancer although mine fortunately was caught very early and I didn’t have to do chemo treatments.

  4. Brenda

    What a fun dog cake! As a child my mom made us special cakes too. I’ve always loved birthdays but suddenly becoming a widow four years ago gave me a great opportunity to celebrate my birthdays with Jesus, and we have so much fun together. We all need to have a day that belongs to us and reminds us how special we are. πŸ™‚

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      Ann H Gabhart

      Thank you again, Brenda, for sharing your upbeat birthday story. There are many others out there widowed or alone for whatever reason on their birthday, but like you, they can still celebrate their special day with the Lord.

  5. Sonja Nishimoto

    I like your birthday post. September is a big month for birthdays in our family. I love birthdays and love spending money on my grandkids. Yes, I do spoil them rotten. But so far they aren’t too spoiled. I have a birthday coming up soon too and I will have to remember to sing Happy Birthday to myself, too!

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      Ann H Gabhart

      I think that’s a great idea, Sonja. Why not sing happy birthday to ourselves or at least sing some sort of praises for the gift of a new year coming out way? Brenda had some good ways to celebrate. Ways that didn’t depend on others. But I’m sure you’ll enjoy hearing those grandchildren telling you happy birthday. Their birthdays are always fun but kids enjoy celebrating others birthdays too. I’ll share a story next time about some kids wanting to make their mother’s birthday good.

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